Chemistry used to baffle me - not the science - that I was completely down with. When I look back at the men in my life I find that interpersonal chemistry is nothing like the science. You cannot combine two elements which you know should react and think you'll get a reaction - Sodium and Water do not a reaction make when it is people we are talking about and inert gases are apparently no longer stable.
I remember this clearly after my date with MW - he said quite plainly - he didn't feel a spark. If I had been honest nor did I. But the suggestion that a spark was more important than getting to know me hurt. I've come to realize that is not what he meant at all.
I had no chemistry with CEF - one more freaking thing that was wrong, so very wrong with that relationship. But moving on. I had sexual chemistry with BI to the likes I don't know if there will be again - but we were not by any means meant to be. I didn't have chemistry with OM, BV or a whole lot of the others until AB. That threw me for a loop. I remember standing at Miss 60's party and wanting to pinch myself - wondering what was going on - there was something about him - something I hadn't known in my life. Oddly I had that this past week and it reminded me that as much as I have had my stuck moments with AB - that there are others out there that will make me feel like it just fits, like it is someone who I could talk with for hours etc. Which is why I just keep plodding on, chemistry can happen in surprising places, maybe it is like inorganic chemistry - you just have to keep mixing until you discover something new and beautiful - like a cobalt compound (cobalt chromium blue).
Inspiring...There has to be chemistry for anything to work, but sometimes chemistry is explosive! Not all chemistry is good chemistry.....Happy Turkey day! Great post!
ReplyDeleteI completely agree - and yes it can be explosive - a tornado and a huricane if I can quote a recent song.
ReplyDeleteI really can't think of anything profound to say, but I can always count on Brando to say (or sing) the right words for me. Enjoy =)
ReplyDeletehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5A1HWEub0hg
Aww okay I so I loved that clip. You're always expanding my repertoire. I really like it because I see both sides - yes you should want all the things she wants (if that's what you want) and yet there should be chemistry - both are needed. From what I see she's to damn set in what she thinks will be right that she's missing that all the things she wants and that it factor/chemistry is right in front of her. Oh love how you are such a messy and complex thing and yet like Brando sings, some moment it will be quite simple
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