I promised Just Sayin' I would get my ass back into the blogging world - so here I am y'all. I start school for reals (thus ending the last time I can use that phrase) tomorrow. But before we get there I would like to address something.
In the months leading up to school I had dozens tell me that school would be equal to a field full of 4 leaf clovers with unicorns frolicking through double rainbows for men. Basically in a world full of almost substandard men that I would find intelligent, suave, intriguing men - X clones but "so much better." I wish I could bring all those people to campus with me. I don't know what they were all sniffing but seriously folks - they're all married and those aren't - well aren't because well natural selection is still in play. Case in point. The second day of orientation at coffee break I found myself next to a second year student taking advantage of the free food. We started to "talk" - I wouldn't call it easy for him, but whatever there were words coming from his mouth.
Dude: What program are you in?
Me: MCS Interdisciplinary
Dude: Oh, so you're in the choose your own program (scoff)
Me: You?
Dude: MDiv (pause) I need to go.
Now I know it is hard to convey his tone. Yes I am in the flakiest of the programs - I am also in one of the most difficult ones since I have to chart my own course - I have to have a vision of what I want to do from the start and start digging it out on my own because no one in the concentration will have the same end result. But really that is not the point - I for some bizarre reason thought that in a school with 50/50 gender representation that the men would be more liberal for lack of a better word. But I guess while there is a world of men looking for their perfect piano playing, long skirt wearing submissive pastor's wife there is a world of men looking for their MDiv counterpart. Yes dear while I'm bouncing children off my hip we're going to discuss the nuances of Ancient Greek translation.
I was seriously taken aback at the reality that I will not be accepted as an equal as X has done. I guess it's a good thing that I still have all my feminist texts at the ready...
PS I miss X - I really miss him.
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ReplyDeleteintellectual snob, did you mention to that person you are probably more educated than them..wow I cannot believe somebody said that to you! x
ReplyDeleteI might very well be more educated than him, but he wasn't interested in that ironically. I was talking N about it - really I think he's looking for someone intellectually pious which is really at the heart of it, still looking for a submissive wife - he didn't want someone willing to chart their own course... Degrees or not, a woman who charts her own course is a different one than those who fall in line.
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